Just a warning to all potential IVF/ART couples. If having a baby or no baby could make or break your marriage/relationship, the pursuit of one may just do that.
The roughly $50K, three cycles (the third is ongoing currently - more on that later) a months into this, has strained our relationship at times and strengthened it in others.
That's all I will say about it right now. In short, finances are a big part for me. I was laid off midway down this path and have supported this latest run on credit cards ranging 6.9-9.99% APR. I had expected to find permanent employment by now (working temp FT positions since March 2011) assuming once things stabilized then we'd still be on-track. Now comes the possibility the money's gone and we haven't achieved success.
I do not say this as a "woe is me" but more as a warning note to others considering this path. Also, if offered, do seriously consider the "multi-plans" or rebate programs offered by your IVF/ART clinic. I/we could have received $20K or so back if our three cycles failed. I think we strongly believed our 1-in-4 chances (live birth) would tilt in our favor if we only believed strong enough. In a clear moment, I know with IVF/ART, much like gamblers in Vegas, they don't take the bus home broke (or not get a baby) because they didn't believe it strong enough.
As for what I mentioned about the ongoing cycle, we have found out it is possible to be "sort of" pregnant. Or at least, the HCG tests have been in the zone (except one, I believe the 2nd) but there is some persistent bleeding. What this means, we don't know yet. Brutal wait for ultrasound this coming Monday.
Stay tuned.
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